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The Death of Tinder

A few years ago, a (female) friend told me how she met “the love of her life”: Tinder.

I was surprised to hear this from her, because frankly… online dating wasn’t very socially accepted around here yet. And she never struck me as the kind of girl who would have difficulty getting attention from men. Much later, when I was single again, I remembered this, and I gave Tinder a try.

My expectations of the app weren’t too high, because I am an old-fashioned guy who can’t imagine falling in love with just a few pictures. You need to feel the chemistry and all, right?

Also, I had heard stories of women who quit using it due to the amount of desperate creeps on the app. But still, I figured I’d give it a shot. Considering I do not consider myself desperate, nor a creep (well…not too creepy anyway), I’d have an advantage, right? I mean… after a girl has gone through 10-20 creeps, just an average normal guy should appear to be a Gift from Heaven?

So, I uploaded some images, made a profile and started swiping.

It took me about 10 minutes to realize that the complaints I’d heard from female friends (somehow, not a single guy I know is willing to admit he’s on Tinder) work both ways. Here’s a few of the things I saw in some of the profiles which really turned me off and made me delete Tinder within a matter of weeks after installing it. This is how women are destroying Tinder

Arrogance

I have been seriously shocked by the amount of arrogance some women show on the app. Their profile consists of a few pictures, many of which are unclear. Or even worse, it’s all group pictures, so you don’t even know who you’re supposed to be looking at. But the worst thing of these profiles is their text, in which they list a shitload of “demands” you need to “meet” before you’re even allowed to think about swiping them right.

As if  they are the Queen, and I need to beg them for a meeting. Excuse me, luv? I thought this was about dating, some powerplay? Who the hell are you making all these demands about who may, or may not, swipe you right while you’ve not told me a single thing about yourself? Even if you have clear pics showing a lot of cleavage, I want to know who I’d be going out with.

The sound of silence

Almost just as annoying: you read through every single profile (yes, I’m the kind of guy that actually does that), you occassionally swipe right and once every now and then, you actually get a match. So she also swiped you right. Oh crap..now it’s showtime.

You sit and ponder. You find a hook and you come up with the best sentence to start the conversation.  And then, nothing. Even the crickets have given up and gone home.

You know, if you swipe right, you do so because you like the guy. Don’t be a rude dick and refuse to respond once he’s opened talks. Or hey, you might even start the talk yourself. You know, men and women being equal and all that?

Tindermarketing

Yes, this really is a thing. Tinder is full of girls who do nothing but swipe right every single profile they see, hoping to get a match. But they don’t want to date you. They just want you to see their profile in which they post their blog and instagram. Seriously?

You are abusing a site which is supposed to be about finding love (or a ONS, whatever) to try and inflate your numbers and get an ego-boost? Tinder is full of inflated egos as it is already. Don’t abuse it. Just don’t.

And for the big brands doing this: do you REALLY think it is a good idea to promote your brand by fooling men who think they may have found someone they could love…?

Where have all the good men gone?

special-snowflakeWhere have all the good men gone? I’ve seen this question in blogs. I’ve even read a few pretty profound analyses answering where all the good men went. And yes, I’ve also seen the question in the profiles of some women. Well, you know what? All the good men head for the hills as soon as they come across some special little snowflake who starts out by making demands. I consider myself a good guy and as soon as I come across a woman asking this in her profile, I know it’s time to protect myself.

Some women seem to think that just because they have boobs (big or small, I love them all) and something else, they are in charge. Perhaps it’s feminism gone rogue, but ladies… you’re not supposed to be in control in the dating process. Nor is the guy. It’s not supposed to be a powerstruggle. Otherwise, Netflix would already be hosting a show named “Game of Dates” or something. It is about reciprocity.

If you start of with a profile making demands, the only responses you will get are from men who are insecure enough to give in to any demand you impose on them. That’s how desperate for attention they are. To me, however, it is a clear sign that any relationship that might form is based on a hierarchy.

I really don’t feel like being part of that. I’ve had relationships like that, they don’t work.

If you tell me what you want from me, and not tell me anything about yourself, then why the hell should I respond? Just because you have a pretty face? Newsflash: despite popular culture telling you the opposite, real man want more than a nice wrapping. We want a personality, we want someone real. Someone we can have a conversation or discussion with. Someone whom we can support and whom we know will support us when needed.

But alas, about 90% of the profiles I came across were special little snowflakes.

So I’ll tell you where this good man has gone: I’ve gone offline. I’ve met someone in real life. And we’ve been together for a while know. And Tinder? Pah, that’s sooo 2013

7 Comments

  • August 28, 2017 - 8:07 am | Permalink

    One needs to be very much cautious while falling prey to these fake people. Thanks for writing this.

  • August 28, 2017 - 8:19 am | Permalink

    Nice story. Love this!

  • August 28, 2017 - 11:05 am | Permalink

    Motivating and Inspirational, i will bookmark this to read some other time and aswell share

  • engrreginald
    August 28, 2017 - 2:46 pm | Permalink

    when I saw the title of your post, I was wondering who is this that you have lost without knowing it is one of this dating apps. I have never heard of that name till today but then, this day to find love or a date comes with it’s sacrifices. Buy today many dating sites are now clouded with fake people who claim to be who they are not all in the name to collect money from the person they are chatting with. And that is why we all need to be very careful while looking for love in all this dating apps

  • August 29, 2017 - 7:01 am | Permalink

    Nice articles thanks for sharing us.

  • August 29, 2017 - 9:02 am | Permalink

    Never tried online dating. And don’t know whether it is a boon or an evil 🙂 But your post throws a very interesting perspective about it.

  • August 29, 2017 - 9:47 am | Permalink

    dude, this is the first time i read all the article with all the words. Superb

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